Following the Daily Mail, Blush Fashion Files and the Independent on the release of Willow Smith’s video of ‘Summer Fling’ I decided to have a little thought about this whole rant of young tweens ‘growing fast too young’.
Is this new? No. Who remembers when David Cameron started the debate about the whole sexuality of children; calling out Primark and other retailers for selling ‘sexual’ underwear and shoes with small heels that made them (a bit) in my words ‘kinky’? The Pussycat Dolls were criticised by parents for their sexual fashion style and were not able to release their lines of dolls (I can admit that the Pussycat dolls had a grunge-provocative image). These two highlight the wider concern of young kids growing up too fast.
In line with the Willow Smith new track (and the disturbing video that made you to scream in your head ENOUGH! TAKE IT DOWN), a shocking revelation has come out – young kids are becoming sexually active too. Oh the horror! Dur dur durrrr.
My question is this. Why is it that once some of these kids reach the tween or early stages of puberty that they think that they have the right to have a Blackberry, Iphone, start going to these ‘underage clubs’ (where most guys pretend to be older than they really are) or adults clubs with ‘Fake ID’ (more likely to sleep with an older man because they dress as if they’re older). What happened to growing up gracefully? It seems to me that the pressure of peers as well as the pop culture is making them to experience too many things that they either a ‘can’t handle’ or b ‘don’t know much about’ (you just get ideas from television and friends).
Don’t misread me, I truly understand that many kids mature physically fast, thanks to the improvement of health and technology, I also understand that you can’t control the body’s hormones. However, the fact that many of these tweens are experiencing adult things before their teenage years is disturbing. You may have a change of bodily physique but that don’t make you an adult yet. You’re still under your parent’s house, not financially independent and still getting to know about yourself. Majority of young girls fall in the wrong delusion of love with their older (yes, majority are older) partners. Many whom are just high of testosterone as they are finding out about the ‘REAL BEAUTY’ of the female anatomy (so if you get those dirty comments by guys at school, junior high or secondary/high school don’t be offended, just be careful that you’re not interpreting it in the wrong way i.e. as in you think he likes you).
I remember reading a survey done by Barnardo’s which found a huge percentage of young girls being forced to sleep with their partners – even when they are not ‘ready’. If their partners loved them, then why can’t they respect a girls decision of saying no? Instead of saying ‘If you love me then you’d make love to me’ or using sex as a way to take their relationship to the ‘next level’? Is it really a compulsory for you to be in an relationship just because your friends are in one? For the record, having sex doesn’t make you an adult. There’s more to adulthood than just the ‘love making’…don’t get me started with young girl’s posting sexy pics of themselves in bikinis (or sexy underwear) in their bedrooms, has society become vain that we get butterflies if a cute fella likes, or comments…
Sigh…in a summer season where some girls are showing too much ‘bum cheeks’ (please ladies, always bend when trying on shorts and make sure that your butt doesn’t show) and don’t care whether their leggings are see through (to the point that you see their underwear) the summer love is on. However little tweens, take my advice; enjoy your dolls, tea parties, action figures and cartoons. Enjoy the life of you. Don’t feel pressured to start having a boyfriend/girlfriend, going to clubs etc let your journey to adulthood go with a flow. Respect yourself to the point that you are aware that there are some things that you’re not ready for, as you mature you’ll learn. The worse feeling in the world is to be sexually active to the point that one day you end up getting pregnant (at a young age) by someone who is also a child himself (tell me, which fella would want to be a father in their teens, they are just idiots if they leave you for someone else and evil to manipulate you having sex). Parents, watch over your kids and love them (even when they feel that you are embarrassing) tell them the truth about sex. DON’T SWEEP THE TOPIC UNDER THE CARPET, as many would turn to the media and the internet in order to get answers (especially since explicit material is accessible, which they shouldn’t be having).
Be, B-Boys and girls, listen again
This is for grown looking girls who’s only ten
The ones who watch videos and do what they see
As cute as can be, up in the club with fake ID
Careful, ‘fore you meet a man with HIV
You can host the TV like Oprah Winfrey
Whatever you decide, be careful, some men be
Rapists, so act your age, don’t pretend to be
Older than you are, give yourself time to grow
You thinking he can give you wealth, but so
Young boys, you can use a lot of help, you know
You thinkin life’s all about smokin weed and ice
You don’t wanna be my age and can’t read and write
Begging different women for a place to sleep at night
Smart boys turn to men and do whatever they wish
If you believe you can achieve, then say it like this
(Nas – I Know I Can)
STAY IN SCHOOL!